Come August 15th and we will be celebrating our Independence
Day. Flags would be hoisted everywhere, in government edifices, schools,
institutions, residential buildings, etc. Little kids would proudly roam the
streets with the tricolor badges pinned to their attires. Patriotic songs would
reverberate throughout busy lanes. Powerful speeches would be made by various
political parties. The media would be addressed. Stories of our glorious
freedom fighters would be telecast everywhere. People would greet each other
with warm smiles and a "Happy Independence Day."
But what does freedom mean to you and me? What does it feel
like to be free? Is it a state of mind? Or something tangible that you can
actually feel? My mother often tells me that a nation can never be fully
independent or can never progress until the women of that country are
respected, protected and safe. Are we safe? Am I safe? I ask myself this
question and a gruesome incident that happened here, just as 2012 was coming to
an end, comes to my mind. And the frightening thing is, the thoughts don't stop
there. A barrage of such incidents varying in severity trickle in.
Aren't we the country that deifies women? Don't we celebrate
innumerable festivals where we idolize and worship these goddesses? So why is
it that the respect is only limited to deities? Can't it be extended to living,
breathing, walking and talking beings who have been given the boon to beget
life? Even throughout our history we have women freedom strugglers who proved
their mettle by fighting tooth and nail to bring India where she is today. Rani Laxmi Bai, Sarojini Naidu, Usha Mehta, Savitribai Phule, Begum
Hazrat Mahal, Aruna Asaf Ali, to name a few. Then there were great
women leaders like who inspired us with their courage and determination. Today
we have countless women who have surmounted the impossible and achieved what we
could only dream of. Be it in the field of education, entertainment, politics, media,
business, science, technology, economics, sports, etc. They've come from
different spheres of life, fought against the norms, refused to conform and
accomplished what they have. On one hand we salute them and on the other we
subject them to some of the worst forms of abuse. In that sense, it makes us
the most dangerous hypocrites in the world.
I don't remember a morning when I got up and the front page of my
newspaper didn't have a headline
informing about a ghastly incident that happened to a woman. I've forgotten
what it feels like to read a daily that doesn't have dreadful and horrible things
splattered all over it. Hence I've stopped reading them altogether. Whatever traces
of news I do get, I get it from sources other than these. Yes it is foolish
some might say because it isn't going to solve anything, but I can't read
another paragraph on how a girl's face was disfigured in broad daylight at a
place that I've been to several times in my life or I can't go through the pain
of seeing yet another important verdict being put on hold for an indefinite
period of time. I can't stand it when "supposed" juveniles commit
unspeakable horrors and they are just sent to a correctional facility for
rehabilitation. It bothers me when people do hideous things to women and they
walk away scot-free and also get a respectable job at a bank in another state.
The day we address this problem at the grass root level, which is NOT
illiteracy, (because literate people too sometimes surpass the rest in such grisly
acts) but the mindset of people, will be the day of our true victory. The way
they think and view women. I'm not a hard core feminist, never was, but when I got
up today and sat down to think of design ideas that I could use to make a
greeting for the big day it struck me how silly I am. To think that I could
celebrate freedom in a country where we are still bound by such ineffective
laws. Where promises are just words spoken to increase votes, where one
shameful act after another are committed blatantly and we don't do anything, where
the only response that a horrid crime elicits is a candlelight vigil or
political mudslinging.
I'll celebrate my independence day when I'm truly emancipated from the
evils that plague the women of my nation day in day out. I'll celebrate my
independence when stringent laws are introduced, implemented and executed with
no delay. When little girls are able to play outside their homes without the
fear of someone taking their innocence away. When women are no longer afraid to
travel late at night. When the stranger lurking in the dark, waiting in the
shadows, is closed in on before he dares to take a step.